Friday, 3 July 2020

Incomparable By Brie & Nikki Bella

My introduction to the Bella Twins began whilst  exploring the reality TV show, Total Diva, a show exploring the behind the scenes lives of wrestlers in the women's division, including Trinity Fatu, Ariane Andrew, Natalya Neidhart and more. In actuality wrestling has never been a sport I have ever taken much  interest in but I love reality TV so I gave it a trial and instantly became hooked! The show was a hit with viewers and not long after, WWE champions Nikki and Brie Bella, were offered an opportunity to air their spin off, Total Bellas, which has become an international success. 

Four years after premiering their TV series, the Bella sisters have penned their own memoir detailing the their story on their journey to stardom and entrepreneurship. Incomparable is a fitting name to explain their life story because being twin sisters I can imagine how frequently they would be compared to one another and the frustration that may come with that. Although they shared a womb and journeyed through life together,  it is also important to remember they are seperate individuals. Brie takes the role of the deep, down to earth hippie who loves earth and nature whereas, Bella is spontaneous, lives for glitz and glamour and appreciates the finer things in life. 

Throughout the book, Nikki and Brie are honest and Frank about the rough childhood they faced having experienced childhood trauma through witnessing their dad struggle with addiction and Nikki bravely opening up about the sexual abuse she had encountered as a teenager. The twins discuss the impact of how their trials and tribulations have shaped them and make it crystal clear they do not want to be seen as victims but rather survivors. Every obstacle and barrier has strengthened them and given them resilience to push forward in life. 

To find out more about Nikki and Brie Bella's journey through life, you can go and purchase their new memoir, Incomparable, now on Amazon


Sunday, 21 June 2020

23 Lessons in 23 Years

Over the weekend I was fortunate enough to reach another year in my life which I am incredibly grateful and thankful for. During this time of quarantine due to the deadly virus, Covid 19, there has not been a whole bunch of things to indulge in so I have taken the time to reflect on 23 Lessons I have learned during my 23 years of life.

1.Be mindful about the information and media you consume from music, movies, articles and books.  The media has a strong influence on your mindset. 

2. Read. Read. And read some more. Read to gain wisdom. Read to gain insight. Read to expand your mind. Read to understand. Read to see from a different perspective. Read different materials. Read biographies/memoirs/children's books/fantasy. Read articles. Read journal articles. Read something.

3. Question the beliefs you hold. Alot of opinions you have are popular commentary which have been repeated over without holding any real meaning. 

4. You can have more than one career
You don't have to have one profession for the rest of your life, if you have multiple interests there is no harm in exploring them. 

5.  Multitasking is not everyone. 
Juggling multiple tasks at once is exhausting, give your attention to one thing at a time

6. Write wherever and whenever you can. On the bus. Going for a walk. Before bed. Exercise your writing ability. 

7. Replace unnecessary online activity with something that will stimulate your mind I. E writing, journaling 

8. Have a mind of your own. Develop your own opinions and do research on topics that interest you to help you become a more rounded individual. 

9. Let the past be the past. 
The past is the past, you can't change what has already happened but you can learn from it and change the outcome of the future.

10. Move in Silence.
Every time you make plans to accomplish a goal it is not necessary to proclaim it to the world. Whether it be social media, friends or family, a little mystery goes a long way.

11. Keep track of achievements. 
It always helps to make note of positive things I may want to remember in the future. 

12. Less is more.
Throw away things you don't need, hoarding only creates clutter and junk.

13. Let the past be the past. 
The past is the past, you can't change what has already happened but you can learn from it and change the outcome of the future.

14. Draw inspiration from sources but never a carbon copy of what already exists. 

15. Do what YOU want within reason and moderation.

16. If it doesn't feel right, don't waste your time forcing it to be

17. The three Ps you need in life in order to progress in whatever you choose to pursue: Practice. Patience. Persist.

18. Write down everything

19. Always be aware and alert of your surroundings. 

20. Make time for your hobbies 

21. Explore your options

22. Invest in your appearance 

23. Question. Research. Learn. Reflect. Until you get the answers you are searching for. 

Thanks to God for keeping me for 23 years and hopefully many more years to come. 


Wednesday, 6 May 2020

Life Lessons From Skincare Brand Owner, Maria Hatzistefanis

Maria Hatzistefanis began her career as a beauty writer and later made her through the world of finance. She realised that finance was not her calling and this became evident through her the lack of care displayed at work she eventually was fired from her role in investment banking. She later started moving her way through the world of makeup and beauty. After a tough 18 years she has built and established her Skincare collections Rodial and NIP + Fab,  which have now become global brands sought out by the rich and famous. The author of How to Be an Overnight Success has returned to give readers the truth on how she managed to grow her business from the bottom up. Here I will show you some of my take aways on her new book, How to Make it Happen.

1. Find a Positive Role Model

"Research people that do the job or things that you love, follow them on social media, find articles about them. Read biographies, listen podcasts of successful people that you can relate to." One of my favourite past times is doing my research on women that are doing well in their respective fields because it give me the motivation and encouragement to pursue my own goals. Especially if they are young. Hearing others stories and how they have succeeded in their achievements provides you with an opportunity to take tips from their journey and learn from their mistakes.

2. Avoid Negtive People

Most of us do not purposely choose to surround ourselves with negativity but every now and then you may find yourself in the company of those who just are perpetually miserable with life and their circumstances.  That may include friends, aquaintacances, or colleagues. It is important to recognise when this occurs and distance yourselves from such. The same can also be applied to your life online. I for one have stopped following gossip sites because I do not want to feed my mind with unnecessary commentary about how others live their lives. Not to add it was time consuming and taking up precious time I could be spending on working on my craft or doing another activity which could be beneficial to my life. 

3. The Best Way to Deal With Rejection is to Learn From it

When Maria first started her business, her goal was to have her products sold in a luxury department store. After sending numerous calls, and emails, she would hear nothing back. She would go on to do this year after year then after year 7 of continuous asking and pleading, she got her big break and her dream became actualized. A meeting was held and the officials recognised her passion and the uniqueness of her product and finally gave her a chance! Despite being rejected non-stop, this did not stop her from chasing her vision. She used those years to improve her products and work harder than ever before. Just because one of your plans does not work out the first time round, it does not mean it is the end of the road. 

4. The Career Woman/Super Woman Trope is a Fantasy

As a busy business woman in the world of beauty and kids to look after, Maria did not shy away from acknowledging that she and her husband (who works in finance) have both a nanny and a housekeeper to keep things at home in order. When celebrities announce that they do in fact outsource help it eases the pressure from regular, everyday women from not feeling as though they need to bear the load of playing 'superwoman'. The superwoman is the loving mother, devoted wife and a career flyer. If we are being completely honest it is not realistic to maintain a high flying career and children on your own, without help. Men for the most part are expected to be breadwinners and are rarely scrutinised for not doing their share of care giving therefore, the woman is often forced to sacrifice her work for time with the kids. However, if you are in a situation where you and your spouse are able to hire a nanny/ housekeeper, why not make life easier for yourselves? I understand there are women who take pride in doing it all alone but at the end of it all you will be exhausted and depleted. Your physical and mental health is more important than trying to win brownie points for the woman of the year award.

5. Define your Own Definition of Success

The general census of what it means to be successful is to graduate, enter a stable field and earn plenty of £££££, get married and eventually have children. There is not anything wrong with that but that is not everybody's plan. As long as you know where you are headed and working towards the plans you have set yourself, that is all that matters. When we set out to make any major decisions in life, we should question the intentions behind them. Am I doing this because it brings me happiness and fulfilment or because I am craving externatal rewards and validation?

To find out more about Maria's journey to success, get your copy of How to Make it: Turning Failure into Success on Amazon today. 

Wednesday, 1 April 2020

Life Lessons From Financial Enthusiast and Influencer Patricia Bright

Patricia Bright is one of the biggest Youtubers online  with a mass following of over 2 million subscribers.
Whilst documenting fashion, beauty and lifestyle related content, she also possess a wealth of knowledge in the financial sector which she often shares with viewers. Growing up in South London she faced many challenges with her family and managed to conquer them all to become the global entrepreneur she is today. Patricia is now sharing her life story and the lessons she has learned along the way in her book, Heart and Hustle: Use Your Passion. Build Your Brand. Achieve Your Dreams.

1. Every idea is a good idea
I was recently watching a mini clip on YouTube of The Real, and the panelists were discussing their 'stupid ideas' which turned out to be ideas others had also thought of and later captislised on. One example being in previous years comedienne Loni Love mentioned in her younger days she would  deliver food to the older people in her community for a period of time and years later we now have the food delivery service, UberEats! One person's silly idea, is another's goldmine. The hosts also touched on the fact that all ideas can be revised and improved on. Whatever ideas I have in my mind I tend to write down because you never know how that may become of use down the line. A simple idea today can turn into a million pound business next year.

2. Stop talking and get the work done
One reason we love to talk about our plans as opposed to just doing it because it is much easier than actually getting the work done. Talk is cheap and quick, it literally requires little effort to confess something you dream of doing in the future. Sadly the reality is talking will only get you so far if you are not willing to buckle down and do what you need to do. Now there is nothing wrong with letting it be known what you are up to with people that are close to you but it is all the more satisfying to let your results speak for itself.

4. Celebrate yourself often
In life it is usually only big milestones which are worthy of being celebrated and applauded. This can mean landing job promotions, moving house and graduations. These particular events only happen a few times in the year which means we should wait every 5 months to treat ourselves? I don't know about you but that is too long a wait for me. In recent years I have learned the importance of celebrating my smaller achievements which others may not be aware of because I want to feel good and reward myself for my work even if no one else knows about it. Even as I am writing this blog post, I am promising to treat myself to a nice takeaway meal if I am able to finish this post by the end of the night. If you don't reward for the little things, who will?

5. Speak positively to yourself 
Positive self talk is an essential part of moving forward in life. The cares of everyday life will occasionally cause us to become stressed and depleted and the last thing you need is negative thoughts infiltrating your mind as well. Espcially for creative people and those of us sharing our art online, we can get caught up comparing and doubting what we are creating therefore it is important to gain control over what we feed into. The mind controls our actions therefore we have to all that we can to ensure that it is being nourished and well taken care of. Last year I wrote a post on writing things into a existence and how the words which are spoken can impact our lives. 

6. Be a Genuine Creator 
With the rise of social media platforms such as Instagram and Twitter, it has become clear how easy it can be to become a viral star. Now more than ever trends are being excessively copied and ideas stolen - many have forgotten that it takes originality and innovativeness to maintain longevity. Those who are known to repeatedly steal the work of others, rarely stay around for long and are shortly forgotten. There are online 'stars' who are creating content for the love of gaining popularity as opposed to wanting to add value to their audience. My thing is if you do not have genuine intentions about being an online creator and using your platform for good, you are better off finding a hobby you are actually passionate about and seek pleasure from.

To learn extra life Lessons and more about Patricia's journey you can purchase Heart and Hustle on Amazon now. 

Saturday, 29 February 2020

Write it Into Existence

"I shall be a bestselling writer, After Imago, each of my books will be on the bestseller at LAT, NYG, PW, WP, etc. My novels will go onto the above lists whether publishers push them hard or not, whether i'm paid a high advance or not, whther I ever win another award or not. This is my life. I write best selling novels. My novels go on to the best seller on or shortly after publication. My novels travel up to the top of the best seller lists and they reach the top and they stay on top for months (at least two). Each of mt novels does this. So be it! I will find the way to do this. See to it! So be it! See to it!
My books will be read by millions of people.
I will buy a beautiful home in an excellent neighbourhood.
I will send poor black youngsters to Clarion or other writer's workshops.
I will help poor black youngsters broaden their horizons.
I will help poor black youngster go to college.
I will get the best of healthcare for my mother and myself.
I will hire a car whenever I want to or need it.
I will travel whenever and wherever in the world I choose.
My books will be read my millions of people!
So be it! See to it!"

These are the words of assurance from the wonderful writer Octavia Butler.

I love the confidence she exudes through displaying her wants and desires for her future. As a writer, it can feel like it is just you alone with your words because words are so special to us. The words you profess are a reflection of how you feel in your heart. Your words are a reflection of how you perceive the world around you. Word are precious. Words are delicate. Words have meaning and power therefore it is important to use them wisely.

Octavia was a woman who believed in the power of her and she wrote down her goals as a reminder to herself of what she aimed to achieve in the future. Years later she has become a best selling author who has sold millions of copies of books!

The phrase speaking into existence has recently become a popular phrase amongst many to encourage  us to affirm positivity over our lives. On social media I have witnessed a couple of people saying that speaking things into existence is not biblical. Whilst the phrase is not written in the bible, it is used moreso to motive and develop a positive outlook on ones future. Speaking it into existence does not mean that as soon as I claim a blessing it will automatically come to pass. God wants me to succeed and do well at whatever I put my hand to and he has stated in His word that there is Life and Death in the power of the tongue therefore I am using the power words hold to speak life and happiness into my life.

Writing is equally as important as speaking. Writing you goals down leaves a reminder of what you have dreamed of and it allows you to take the steps to work out how you will accomplish your goals. Without plan to take action you writing into existence becomes void.
For example, one of your goals could be that you want a car later this year. But what actions have you taken to ensure this becomes a reality. Have you applied for a provisional liscence? Have you started revising for your theory test? Are you taking practical driving lessions? Writing your plans down does not mean anything if you have no plans to take action. Speak and write your dreams into existenxe but do not forget to plan and be proactive with these ideas.

Wednesday, 12 February 2020

20 Positive Affirmations For 2020

A new year and a new decade has come around and I don't know about you but I am pretty much done with doing the same thing over and over amd not recieving my desired results. I have taken some time out to pen some things I hope to manifest in the forseeable future and I will pray that I can look back at the end of the year and smile with glee because I will have achieved what I had hoped for at the start.

This year is about elevation.
This year is about revelation.
This year is about leveling up.
This year is about spoiling myself.
This year is about bettering myself.
This year is about finding opportunties.
This year is about creating opportunties.
This year is about blossoming.
This year is about progression.
This year is about recognising my greatness.
This year is about shining my light.
This year is about trying new things.
This year is about flourishing.
This year is about acting on my potential.
This year is about bringing my vision to life.
This year is about making wiser decisions.
This year is be about being more gracious to myself.
This year is about removing myself from comfort zones.
This year is about furthering my knowledge.
This year is about self improvement.

What is 2020 going to be the year of for you?