Saturday, 28 December 2019

The Reality of Women Having it All

In an episode of reality talk show, The Real, the panel discussed whether it is possible for a woman to 'have it all'. When we take a look at the traditional version of what it means to have it all, it shows us that women should aspire to juggle every single task and responsibility with a smile and zero complaints. That is how I view it anyway.  The world has attempted to force feed women the idea that in order to have a fulfilled life they must have a flourishing career, husband and kids. But the reality is that is not every woman's desire.

Whilst discussing the topic, Adrienne made a profound statement which I loved. She added, ''I think the first thing as women we should recognise is, what does having it all mean to you? Because what my all is may not be your all.' I felt that was a significant statement because it made me pause and reflect on what it means to me to have it all. What I came to realise is that it does not align with the definition that society has encouraged us to believe, it is subjective and can mean whatever you want it to. For myself, I desire to maintain a healthy relationship with God, become apart of a strong friendship group, and build a successful writing path. That is what I long to work towards.
Shortly after Adrienne went on to include the idea that having it all can mean different things at different stages in life. As a teenager she was very career orientated and worked hard to further her acting career whereas now, being an older woman she now finds joy in spending more quality time with her family.

Girls and women are individuals with multidimensional aspirations and desires, therefore, we will not all want to experience the same things and I think there are people that find that difficult to comprehend due to the roles women have been obligated to play in society as well as limited media representation we have had to endure over the years. But now that is changing and women are calling the shots in their own lives and I am here for it!

So to answer the question of 'can women have it all?' Absolutely yes!


Monday, 23 December 2019

Vision Boarding: Dreams, Goals and Aspirations

If you are a newbie and have not yet experienced creating a vision board, this is the perfect time to get one started. The new year is around the corner so what better way to begin than being prepared and well equipped to hit your goals? A vision board is simply a visual representation of all of the goals and aspirations you would like to reach in the future, whether that be in the next year or in the next 5. It is completely up to you what you decide to place on there because how you spend your time and what you wish to achieve is an individual affair, no one can tell you what you should want for yourself.

Before you even start your dream board, you will firstly need to ask yourself some important questions in order for you to get an idea of what you want. Who do I want to be? What career do I want to have? What type of people do I want to be surrounded with? What lifestyle choices do I want to make? What countries do I wish to travel to? Where do I want to reside? This is also a learning exercise to develop an understanding of who you are and what you eventually want to become.

If you're like me and opt for a digital version, Pinterest and Tumblr, We Heart It, are all useful tools for inspiration. I used the app Canvas to produce my board. It is super easy and effortless to navigate and cost-free. You can use your board as your wallpaper on your phone so that every time you look on your mobile, you are met with your dream future. Alternatively you may prefer a physical board which can be created by buying your own cardboard canvas and cutting and sticking motivational quotes, aesthetically pleasing mages and photos from magazines, newspaper articles and online sources. Another option you may want to consider would be creating a vision book. It is the same concept only that you will use a plain notebook/scrapbook to fill the pages with whatever you have wished to place in your future. I may decide to write a separate post on this in the near future but for now, Youtuber and influencer Aliyah Maria Bee has a video detailing her own which you may draw inspiration from.

In some respect vision boards may appear to be be a collection of pretty pictures but in reality if they are made with pure intention, they serve as a constant reminder of which direction in life you're headed toward. As lovely to gaze at as they are, looking at your board alone will not suddenly cause them to come to life. Real work needs to be done assist your affirmations. You can affirm what you want to be but without putting in the work, you won't get very far.
There are some who would prefer to wait until the 1st January to decide what they want for 2020 and beyond but why wait till then when you can start a month before and already be 5 steps ahead. I would rather go into the new year a few steps ahead, feeling prepared and ready for the challenges awaiting. The longer you wait, the longer it will take to attain those goals in the future. Start NOW.