Saturday, 28 December 2019

The Reality of Women Having it All

In an episode of reality talk show, The Real, the panel discussed whether it is possible for a woman to 'have it all'. When we take a look at the traditional version of what it means to have it all, it shows us that women should aspire to juggle every single task and responsibility with a smile and zero complaints. That is how I view it anyway.  The world has attempted to force feed women the idea that in order to have a fulfilled life they must have a flourishing career, husband and kids. But the reality is that is not every woman's desire.

Whilst discussing the topic, Adrienne made a profound statement which I loved. She added, ''I think the first thing as women we should recognise is, what does having it all mean to you? Because what my all is may not be your all.' I felt that was a significant statement because it made me pause and reflect on what it means to me to have it all. What I came to realise is that it does not align with the definition that society has encouraged us to believe, it is subjective and can mean whatever you want it to. For myself, I desire to maintain a healthy relationship with God, become apart of a strong friendship group, and build a successful writing path. That is what I long to work towards.
Shortly after Adrienne went on to include the idea that having it all can mean different things at different stages in life. As a teenager she was very career orientated and worked hard to further her acting career whereas now, being an older woman she now finds joy in spending more quality time with her family.

Girls and women are individuals with multidimensional aspirations and desires, therefore, we will not all want to experience the same things and I think there are people that find that difficult to comprehend due to the roles women have been obligated to play in society as well as limited media representation we have had to endure over the years. But now that is changing and women are calling the shots in their own lives and I am here for it!

So to answer the question of 'can women have it all?' Absolutely yes!


Monday, 23 December 2019

Vision Boarding: Dreams, Goals and Aspirations

If you are a newbie and have not yet experienced creating a vision board, this is the perfect time to get one started. The new year is around the corner so what better way to begin than being prepared and well equipped to hit your goals? A vision board is simply a visual representation of all of the goals and aspirations you would like to reach in the future, whether that be in the next year or in the next 5. It is completely up to you what you decide to place on there because how you spend your time and what you wish to achieve is an individual affair, no one can tell you what you should want for yourself.

Before you even start your dream board, you will firstly need to ask yourself some important questions in order for you to get an idea of what you want. Who do I want to be? What career do I want to have? What type of people do I want to be surrounded with? What lifestyle choices do I want to make? What countries do I wish to travel to? Where do I want to reside? This is also a learning exercise to develop an understanding of who you are and what you eventually want to become.

If you're like me and opt for a digital version, Pinterest and Tumblr, We Heart It, are all useful tools for inspiration. I used the app Canvas to produce my board. It is super easy and effortless to navigate and cost-free. You can use your board as your wallpaper on your phone so that every time you look on your mobile, you are met with your dream future. Alternatively you may prefer a physical board which can be created by buying your own cardboard canvas and cutting and sticking motivational quotes, aesthetically pleasing mages and photos from magazines, newspaper articles and online sources. Another option you may want to consider would be creating a vision book. It is the same concept only that you will use a plain notebook/scrapbook to fill the pages with whatever you have wished to place in your future. I may decide to write a separate post on this in the near future but for now, Youtuber and influencer Aliyah Maria Bee has a video detailing her own which you may draw inspiration from.

In some respect vision boards may appear to be be a collection of pretty pictures but in reality if they are made with pure intention, they serve as a constant reminder of which direction in life you're headed toward. As lovely to gaze at as they are, looking at your board alone will not suddenly cause them to come to life. Real work needs to be done assist your affirmations. You can affirm what you want to be but without putting in the work, you won't get very far.
There are some who would prefer to wait until the 1st January to decide what they want for 2020 and beyond but why wait till then when you can start a month before and already be 5 steps ahead. I would rather go into the new year a few steps ahead, feeling prepared and ready for the challenges awaiting. The longer you wait, the longer it will take to attain those goals in the future. Start NOW.

Monday, 18 November 2019

How to Be an Overnight Success By Maria Hatzistefanis

How To Be an Overnight success is the biographical account of the career of skincare brand owner, Maria Hatzistefanis and talented illustrator, Emma Kenny, who illustrated the gorgeous cover for the book.

Over the years the founder of Rodial and Nip and Fab has spent her time building her expertise of luxury skincare products which have been sported by the likes of Lindsay Lohan and Kylie Jenner.

Hatszistefanis shares the precious gems she has discovered on her journey of entrepreneurship and kindly sprinkled them in a book for her audience. If you would like to learn more about the lessons she has learned about developing a global brand, please do carry on reading..

Most of us want to do well in life, no matter what we do. I find that people who excel brilliantly are the ones who have clarity about their goals and move with assurance regarding following through with their goals. It is not enough to just want it. You need to clear about how you are going to reach your desired destination. When I am feeling unsure about where I am headed I brainstorm the necessary steps I need to take in order to get there. It may take a little longer than I would have liked but at times and that's alright because there is no rush and I am not in competition with anybody.

As you develop your craft and understand the type of content you enjoy producing, it is possible to get caught into the net of complacency. As soon as complacency hits, your work becomes routine and dull. Maria states, 'sometimes pushing the limits means creating opportunities that other people don't see' and I could not agree more. It can be as simple as questioning, 'what can I bring attention to which nobody else is checking for and how can I make it engaging for my audience?'

My honest belief is that collaborating with others in your field has to begin with a firm foundation. It can start off by simply engaging with their work for example, leaving sweet messages about how much you have enjoyed reading their posts, recommending it other people who may benefit from it, and offering constructive criticism. All of which I would like to do a lot more of this year. It is the little things that make a big difference. Building genuine relationships with other ladies who are pursuing similar things myself is the goal.

If and when in the future I decide to collaborate with other writers, it has to be genuine and authentic.

Whilst discussing her tips for achieving she success, Maria explains that we should identify people who's work we admire and follow their journey. Some ways of going about this are reading their biographies, listening to motivating interviews on YouTube and following them on their social media platforms.

As a blogger you may assume I would be keeping up with all the juice in the blogging world  but if I am honest there are not a lot of blogs that interest me a whole lot. That may partially be because I have not made a strong enough effort to connect with other bloggers.  This year however, I would like to seek out the work of more young bloggers and study the bloggers who are already established and see what I could learn from them!

It is so easy to catch yourself making comparisons with others especially when you know you have not reached the point of success you would have liked.
When I see young ladies my age receiving great opportunities it does make me pause and think that I am possibly not doing enough to reach the same heights they have. On the other hand, it gives me hope that if they have been able to work hard and reap the benefits of their labour, I can do the same. Whenever I catch myself making a comparison, I try to steer it into inspiration and hope.

Whilst discussing her tips for achieving success, Maria explains that we should identify people who's work we admire and follow their journey. Some ways of going about this are reading their biographies, listening to motivating interviews on YouTube and following them on their social media platforms.


In the land of blogging, there are so many of us who writing about similar topics. Mind you, there are a number of niches which I love the variety of but I believe when we see the popular bloggers , there is pressure to conform to the thing everyone loves. At the moment I would say the most popular type of blogs are fashion and beauty, and I respect girls and women growing individual platforms to showcase their femininity with the world. The truth is when such a large number of people are doing the same thing, it can feel very repetitve. The only way to stand out is to do what you do differently.

There are tonnes of more gems to collect in this book but I do not want to give too much away! If you would like to learn more from Maria's inspiring story then head over now to Amazon to purchase How to Become an Overnight Success.

Thursday, 10 October 2019

Life Lessons from Kimora Lee Simmons

Do you guys know about the reality show Kimora: Life in the Fab lane? That was one of my favourite shows back in the day! The show explored the ins and outs of the luxurious and glamourous life of the world renowned model Kimora Lee Simmons alongside her kids and former husband and kids. I had been itching to have a copy of her book, Fabulosity: What it is and How to Get it and now I've done just that at long last! Kimora describes fabulosity as: a state of everything that is fabulous and 2: a quality ascribed to that which expresses glamour, style, charisma, power, and heart. The book is is filled with tonnes of relateable and practical content from building your confidence, asserting yourself in the workplace and building connections in your career.

A few lessons I learned from the book include:

1. Encourage yourself to be different.
When you are building yourself in a particular industry (especially one that is quite small such as the creative industry) you will find alot of people wanting to do similar things therefore in order to stand and differentiate yourself you mist set yourself apart and ensure that you are bringing something different to the table.

2. Fake it til you make it. I don't mean to fake being somebody youre not or being a phony. I mean tell yourelself youre great even when some part of you is doubting it.
We have all heard the saying, 'fake it till you make it' but this sometimes is the only way of pushing forward and forcing yourself out of your comfort zone. If we don't encourage ourselves, who will?
3. Turn your insecurities into your power
Being a fellow tall girl myself, I have never really enjoyed being the one who towers over the vast majority of the people in the room. I sincerely hope one day I will get to a get to place of feeling truly comfortable with my height and body. Standing at a staggering 6'2 Kimora carved a career out of her height which she once upon a time was bullied and picked on for!

4. The people who succceed are the ones who act on their ideas. You dont have to come up with the most incredible idea ever to be successful, so dont sit paralyzed in fear that your idea isnt 'good enough' to execute.
Even if an idea you come up with has been executed before, there is a chance it has not been executed the way you would have liked. You know, when you wait for a music video to drop and it isn't anything near as amazing as you had envisioned it to be? I guess that could be the same with our ideas and plans!

I strongly reccomend this book to any young girl or woman who is struggling with finding their identity amd would benefit from hearing the comforting story of a misfit - turned mogul and completely changed their life around from making the most of what cards were handed to her.

Fabulosity: What It Is & How to Get It is is available for purchase on Amazon now.